The woman was American, living in Buenos Aires long-term. One evening, one of the older milonguero/as, observing that she always left the milonga alone, told her, "Find someone to take care of you. The milonga is not enough."
I'm in a place like that, right now. Sometimes the milonga just makes things worse. This was one of those nights, in spite of and also because of my several very nice dances. What do you do with a dance where you embrace each different partner like a lover--and leave by yourself? It is so difficult for me to separate the two right now--the emotions of the dance and my emotions off the dance floor.
"The milonga is not enough."
Found that passage again, by accident. It was in a post by Deby, writer of the blog TangoSpam/La Vida con Deby.
Finally she says to me "Find someone to take care of you. Someone to love you. Don't be alone. The tango is not enough."
~La Vida con Deby: "The Milonga Chronicles: The Tango Is Not Enough."